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Guest Post: When even your best lipstick can’t hide your frown


Anxiety and dating are probably not the best match when it comes to relationships but sadly for some people including me it's a reality and fact that has to be faced.

To cut a long story short my anxiety first reared its head after having my heart broken and my whole world turned upside down and back to front.

Once things had settled and I found myself in a new relationship I  was shocked to find how I was affected by these feelings. I mean what on earth were they and who invited them to show up just when I thought I was back on my feet and enjoying dating again.

It took a while to recognise and I guess admit to myself that it was happening and that actually I was overthinking and worrying about things that weren't necessarily a problem. All the while over looking the things that actually were causing problems. This then led to that viscous cycle of me thinking it was all my fault and all in my imagination.


Looking back I don't think I was as ready for a relationship as I thought and certainly not that relationship.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing and although I could look back and wonder how on earth it lasted as long as it did, I have to take something away from it.

I am happy to say that life has now moved on in so many ways that I never expected.
Having had both time by myself and time with others I feel comfortable with life as a single Mum and certainly know what I do and don't want.

That said anxiety isn't an easy thing to dismiss it appears when ever it feels like it and can take over much of your time as you try and make sense of things.

I'm no expert and can only speak from my own personal experiences. What I do know is that it can steal your happiness and make you feel tired with a head that feels like it's constantly spinning with questions that there are no answers to.

I'm very lucky I have fantastic friends and family who I can talk to about it. I've read books about it and had counselling to try and help too, particularly to try and help me sleep and clear my mind.

For me I think it's very important to be able to talk about my feelings and try and recognise what's happening, even though at the time I can feel like I don't want to talk to anyone.
I also find writing things down helps, it gets it's off of my chest and helps me to rationalise things.

I do truly believe that with the right support and understanding I will conquer this and not let it take over.
I am now in a new happy relationship and whilst the anxiety and feelings are present at times I am learning to recognise them and try to deal with them head on.

No one knows what the future holds and life is certainly too short to be anything but happy, and if I've learnt anything so far it's that you never know what's around the corner. So grab happiness with both hands, embrace it and don't let it go.

As the saying goes you can’t have a rainbow without a little rain. In life we have to take the happiness with the pain.

Always try and look on the bright side and hopefully the good days will always out weigh the bad.
Hold your head high and remember you've got this.

In the mean time, where ever and whenever it may appear-let's hope we can all enjoy this crazy little thing called love

Guest post written by Natalie from Crazy Little Thing Called Love



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